I am a traditional man

I am a traditional man, though some may call me old-fashioned. Can't really deny it, because:

a) I enjoy listening to oldies(50's-80's)
b) I CAN think/sound/act like an aged man so naturally.
c) My thoughts and opinions often clash with those of the youngsters today.

Recently I read a post of a friend who has looked ahead into the future so I gave a little thought too myself.



I thought about my life after marriage.



My wife...
I wouldn't put a certain criteria of how my future wife should be and such because love is mysterious in its ways; flowers may blossom, shit may happen. But the only thing that matters to me is whether I'm happy with her or not and whether I'll be happy living the rest of my life with her or not. And at the same time, she has to be happy with me too.


...and kids.
But the thing I'm sure about is that I won't want my wife to work when we settle down. It's alright if she wants to work for a few years after our marriage but I won't want her to continue working if we have kids. The household and the kids need somebody to take care of and it sure ain't gonna be some Indon maid. Nah-ah I ain't gonna let my kids be raised with "maidly love". The thing I want most for my kids is that they be well-raised with proper love and care, and only their parents can do that. The last thing I want is that my kids getting themselves at the wrong side of the society doing wrong things just because their parents had no time for them, to guide and to teach them. Looking around at the society we have today, the kind of teens you'll find these days, I can't help but to imagine just what my children could risk becoming. A friend of my aunt saw this as a major problem too and they didn't want to risk losing their Stephanie.


Tough day at work, dear?
But the thing is, I just don't see the point of wives/mothers working. Frankly, I just don't want the job stress and difficulties to burden my wife. When I come home every evening after work I want to see a happy face welcoming her tired worn-out man home, and enjoy dinner prepared by her. Not a tired worn-out woman to see another tired worn-out face at the door. Ain't gonna be something I'll be looking forward to everyday after work.


Don't gamble on what you can't afford to pay for.
Well, women would usually work to further support the family's financial state. So I need to first make sure that I can earn enough to support my family all by myself before I start a family. I'm not gonna risk it by starting a family while I can barely earn enough to support them.


C'est pour le bien de ma famille
The thing is, I want a traditional family and I choose to stay traditional for the good of my wife and my children. I don't want her getting stressed and suffer job difficulties unnecessarily and I don't want my children to grow up without proper parental care. I may not know yet how stressful or tough working is but I sure don't want my wife to find out for me.

I am a product of a traditional family. My brother and sister are good testimonies too, better even. And I am very convinced of what I think will be right for my family.